Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Will You Please Stop Criticizing?



Yesterday I read an FB post concerning the attitude of other people; of how untrue they are, and of how unloving they are. Though there is a grain of truth in it, yet what can we do about it? Millions of people like that are roaming in planet Earth. We could not do anything about it. Jesus came. Jesus left. Still these kind of people exist. On my take, instead of criticizing how unbecoming these people are, could we just love them? I know it is hard. But how sure also are we that never, not even once in our life have we become unloving and untruthful. I acknowledge my humanity. And I acknowledge also the fact that once or perhaps many times in my life have I been untrue and unloving. Sadly, these times happen in my unawareness. People long to be loved and accepted. They would not do anything that would make them look nasty, save only the fact if they are unhealthy (that is, if they have disease like masochism and the like). 
Man is a complex being. We all know that. People behave according to the voice of their experiences, or of their influences. So could we please stop criticizing and begin forgiving and loving? I would be much grateful if you will forgive me and love me than criticize me. I am already doing the same to you, whoever you are. This is the easier way to bring peace to the world. This is the Christian way.
Get happy!


Photo Credit: stocksy.com

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Love Is Never Lost

                         

     What we give, we receive back. This is the way of nature. If we give without expectations, we are a loving giver. If with expectations, we are hurt if not reciprocated. If it's genuine love we give, it's genuine love we receive back. And genuine love never dies, never fades, never lost with the passing of time.

     Get Happy!

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Love Gives The Power Of Working Miracles

                         

     Og Mandino taught me to say I Love You silently to everyone I meet. At first, it's kind of weird. How can it be that effective if no one would hear it? However, I noticed there is that power of love which can be felt even if it's not uttered verbally. Maybe it's the miracle of love. Only God knows. On my part I just followed Og Mandino's advice because he had been there and did it. Nothing will I lose if I do it anyway. Besides, my goal to live fully is so strong that I'm willing to do everything just to become fully alive. I'm not that miracle worker yet. But someday I'll be when God decides to give me my time. I hope someday we would meet in the Miracle Workers Club.

     Get Happy!

Friday, October 21, 2011

Regina Brett's fifty Life Lessons: The Forty-Third Lesson

Image Credit

Lesson Number Forty-Three: All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

God is love. God is the beginning, God is the end. As simple as that. Yet it pains my heart that much to see how little we love and how big we hate. We are now in the new generation. Could we all start letting go of the hatred that had been handed down from our ancestors of the past and start living a life of pure happiness and bliss through love?

We have so many songs about love; so many poems about love; so many stories about love... Yet, why are we still miserable and are living a life short of it? If there is that great love in our hearts, there would be no more hatred, no more wars, no more unhappiness, no more sadness...

I love so much the line of this song that goes, ..."I found the greatest love of all inside of me".... Perhaps this is what we lack: the love inside of us; the love we have for ourselves. Let us start loving ourselves, for how can we love others if we do not have that love for ourselves? And let us love truly because in the end this is all that matters...


Get happy!

 

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Thirty-Eighth Lesson


Lesson Number Thirty-Eight:  Read the Psalms.  They cover every human emotion.

What is your favorite psalm? Mine is Psalm 23. This was introduced to me by my born again Christian aunt when I was still twelve years old. She encouraged me to memorize it. Eventually I did. And it helped a lot, especially in times when my faith wavers.

It is so true that the psalms cover every human emotion like anger, hatred, love, inspiration, hope, depression, anguish, disappointment, joy, faith, ecstasy and all other emotions every human being could feel. I could even hardly believe that people in Biblical times could feel so much anguish when it seems that God had been so near to them in those times. However they are just humans, subject to feel those feelings. 

The Psalms is a Biblical book that connects us to our past. It points us how human we are just like our ancestors. I, on my part, sometimes dreaded to feel the negative feelings that lurk in the deepest part of me. I have the difficulty accepting the fact that negativity is a part of me. But how can I be so ungrateful for it when it is through those feelings that my forefathers discovered God the more? It is in expressing those feelings that God showed them Himself. And it is in feeling those emotions that I know how human I am. And it is only in becoming human will I discover the greatness of God. 

The Psalms also are a good guide for discovering the greatness of God. We could feel how ecstatic the Psalmist had been when he describes the greatness of God. In his mystical experiences I am so much awed and inspired, that such would I feel when I become one with God. 

I could only describe the Psalms in my own limited mind, but the Psalms is more than that. When you read it you'll discover more about God, and more of your faith. Try it. And be guided by the Good Shepherd in Psalms 23.

Get happy! 


Monday, August 29, 2011

Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Thirty-Seventh Lesson

Image Credit

Lesson Number Thirty-Seven: Your children get only one childhood.  Make it memorable.

If I just have overflowing money, 
I would give up working just to be with my kids.  
If I could stop time,
I would stop it and spend the free time with my kids.
If I could spare my children from pain I would,
But it could only hinder them from becoming stronger.
I may love to give everything perfect thing for my children,
Yet, nothing is perfect except the love I could have for them. 

I know all of us, parents, want to give the best for our children. They are the best things that happened in our lives, our treasures, and our purposes for being here.

It is so true that they could only have one childhood, so if we could give them the best let us give it. The reason why other people could never grow up, is because they are tied up to their not so good childhood. Childhood is the time when our minds are clear and ready for anything to be filled in there. However, when this childhood is smeared with painful and embarrassing experiences, it is doomed to stay in the mind until the person involved is prepared to let it go and start his life with a clean slate again.

I accept my childhood wasn't perfect but it sure had its fond memories I loved to visit time and again. And I want my children to experience the same. Hope you could too.

Get happy!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Conception

MSN. encarta defines conception as something conceived in mind; conceiving of young: the fertilization of an egg by a sperm at the beginning of pregnancy. While I define it as something created within and in due time is given out or comes out through birth. What is being conceived within is being nourished and nurtured to make it healthy and be developed.
Every person is being conceived first and given birth in due time. Adam was conceived by God and given birth in a different process in the story of creation. Jesus Christ was conceived by the Holy Spirit through the Blessed Virgin Mary. We should be thankful for in all these conceptions.
However, there are conceptions that are dangerous to man if he is unaware-the conceptions of the mind. All human beings are capable of these conceptions in the mind. Evil intent was first conceived in the mind and given birth through action. Those who conceived greed give birth to it and ended up killing bothers ans sisters, or anyone who comes his way in filling up this greed. Those who conceived selfish passions and desires give birth to it and ended up immoral and full of vices. For anything that is conceived by the mind will come to its maturity and be given birth.
If we were to live a blameless life and a holy life, we must be aware of what we allow our minds to conceive, because whatever it is, in due time it would seek its own birth. This is our nature; we are always conceiving and giving birth.If we want to give birth to love, we have to conceive it first. If we want to give birth to peace, we have to conceive it first. Our mind is always conceiving, thus we must select ..."whatever is true, honest, honorable, of good repute..." that we be mothers and fathers of good conception.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
 "I wish you forgiveness, both the power to forgive and the wisdom and strength to seek forgiveness. One of the most powerful forces in the world, forgiveness frees us from anger, resentment, and the lack of peace that results from these emotions." ~ Living Life Fully
   

Friday, April 9, 2010

I Love You

I love you.
I love you not because you are you.
I love you because you are me.
When I love you, I do not give you a part of me.
When I love you, I expand me.
When I hurt you, I hurt me.
When I love you, I love me.
When I love you I do not ask you to love me back,
Because by loving you, I am already loving me.
For I could not give you what I lack in me.
I love you not because you are a son or daughter of God.
But I love you because I am a daughter of God.
For what I am is what you are too.
However, I could not love me without you,
For I could only love me by loving you.
I love you....

"I wish you a sense of gratitude, thankfulness for all that you've been blessed with in this life, all the things that you have, all the people you know, the food that you eat, the possibilities that you have." ~ Living Life Fully

Thursday, April 8, 2010

The Missing Ingredient

     To love God's people is one of my sacrosanct goals because I believe this to be one of my duties as a Christian. I pray for this daily. But most of the time I caught myself disliking people to the point of allowing them to make me feel miserable. I wonder then, why these very people whom I vowed to love, are the ones preventing me from loving them? 
     Yesterday the answer to my question was laid before me. It was from the blog post of Mary Jaksch of Goodlife Zen where she cited the three pillars of goodness, which are: reverence for life, wisdom, and kindness. Reverence for life struck me hard. My mind went silent for a few minutes. A bell rang in my ear. My heart of hearts told me, "this is what we missed." Yeah, all along in my journey I forgot to revere God's people.
     I may be surrounded with not so perfect people, but this does not give me the right to focus on their shortcomings. If I were to love them, I should do the following things: accept the fact that these people could never be perfect just as I am, believe that despite the imperfect surface, deep inside lies the goodness and greatness of these people, and most of all, revere the life in them. For in revering them, I revere not only them, but also the One who gives them life as well as my life too. Finally, to love them would be much easier.

"I wish you the peace that passes all understanding, the peace that comes from a faith in something much greater than ourselves, a God who is loving and kind and gentle. Millions of people have come across this peace, from the monks who spend day after day in prayer to the  people who have passed through the program of Alcoholics Anonymous in order to clean up their lives and stop allowing their lack of inner peace to destroy them. A lack of peace in our lives can be one of the most destructive forces in the world, and I hope that you never feel the loss of peace in your life." ~ Living Life Fully

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

My Real Worth

     Finding happiness depends on what a person is, what he wants himself to be and what his values and beliefs are.
     My quest for happiness focuses on my spirituality - my profound belief in God. In Him I find an understanding that I did not find in some other areas which I once considered I could gather wisdom from.
     Like for example, I once believed in order to find myself worthy I have to prove this worth by achieving something great. But no. God touches my heart and lets me know I do not have to do anything to prove my worth. I am already a worthy person - worth dying for by His Son, Jesus Christ, on the cross. Here I find my true worth.
     The very good thing is, I don't have to do anything. This lifts the burden and pressure off my shoulder. Of course, This does not mean I am free to do what I considered not good. This means I have the freedom to do everything good - not to feel worthy but to express God's goodness. It is not I doing the good thing; it is God's goodness flowing through me. It is where my will and God's will become one; it is the letting go and the letting it be; it is the creature submitting to its creator. Then and only then happiness and tranquility like a river flow.

"I wish you peace--peace of mind and peace of heart that will allow you to experience life with an equanimity that others simply do not know, an inner peace that others will see and feel, and that will help them to find their own peace on their own terms."  Living Life Fully

Monday, March 29, 2010

Some Things Are Worth Giving Up


     I once believe I have to do great, really great things in order to earn respect from people and be considered one important soul. But just recently I realize I could not please the millions of people in my generation. All because each one has his own preferences and operates life almost always through these preferences. There are just people who love only their flock. Unless you talk, act, and think like them could you be accepted as a person. The folly of me kept on convincing myself that I should do something to become friends with these people. Yet, no matter how much I tried, the effort did not pay off.

     Having arrived to this realization, I become free. Yeah, I have no obligation whatsoever to please these people. The most Godly way I could do is accept them as they are and accept the fact that they could not please me too. There is no attachment. We are all free. If they despise me for being different from them, I'll toss the idea aside. It is not worth the bother. I am free. Life goes on.

"I wish you friends and friendship, the ability to be a friend, and the openness to allow others to be your friends. It isn't always easy to open ourselves up and allow others to see our needs and our faults, but this journey of life on which we all find ourselves is much more fulfilling when we don't try to travel every path alone. Making and keeping friends is not always an easy task, but it's one that's well worth the trouble and the risk."   Living Life Fully
 

Sunday, March 28, 2010

I Will Greet This Day With Love In My Heart

     I am so grateful to Living Life Fully for helping me remember the good "things" I already forgot. As you can see, I started this year with resolutions hoping I would become a much better person at the end of the year. I followed programs and divided my goals in a daily achievement basis. I even prayed that God would lead the right people into my life. Eventually He did. And much more than that someone had already been with me in my journey, only that I completely forgot everything about this man.

     On Friday I read the weekly ezine from Living Life Fully. There they featured a part of Og Mandino's book The Greatest Salesman In The World. I have not yet bought this book. But the one entitled The Greatest Secret In The World had I purchased five years ago. It is a book where you have to follow the scrolls and read on a daily basis in order to achieve self development. I did follow it but only for two months because I was in an unhealthy relationship during that time. Becoming healed and yet on the process of pain could never be done simultaneously. It took me some time to get over with that relationship. When I was on my feet again I was busy with family life that I completely forgot this book. I even did not remember it when I made the resolution of improving myself. When I read a part of it in the ezine I immediately remembered due to the familiarity of the words.. I really am so grateful. For the next forty-five weeks Og Mandino would be with me once again in this journey. This time I assure it is worth the money I paid for it.

     From this day onwards, I will greet the day with love in my heart!

     "I wish you to develop the light that is within you, to strengthen your spiritual faith, to help your faith in yourself to grow and thrive. You have the gift of self- sufficiency and the possibility of growing into a person who is strong and able. But may you not grow too strong, though, so that you reject the help and love and  caring of others who wish to be there for you. Balance your strength with your needs and the need of others to be helpful and to show their caring."
                                                                         Living Life Fully

Friday, March 12, 2010

When You Have To Do It Even If You Hate It

     "I hate to do it, but I have to do it." These were the words that kept on echoing in my mind right after I made the decision. There are just situations in which you have to make a decision regardless of whether you will be completely understood or downright judged. Having made a pledge to God to love His people and correct them gently, made it hard for me to do my work. My line of work requires to be firm with people. For, if I have to remain lenient with them and their capricious, they would abuse the regulations set by our company, which would result in making me an ineffective employee. Yes, negotiation and an acceptable excuse are the very first thing to do. But when people have crossed the thin line between kindness and abuse, we have to do the right thing even if it means hurting their pride and feelings.

     The truth is, there are many people who are so undisciplined in their own lives that they go about meeting with people believing they can influence people with their own lies. These are the people whom I act strictly with. When they need to hear the truth, I give it to them. It is sort of wham! slapping them on the face and saying, "wake up thou from thy sleep!"

     And, yes, these are the people I pledged to love and cherish. In the sense of the word they are not my family. But in the law of the universe, they are my family. I know I just did the right thing, waking them up. But I felt a little tinge of guilt for slapping them the truth. However if I am to do it again, I choose to do it again. For it is better for me to suffer the pangs of guilt than allowing these people to go with their lives walking in their sleep. Sometimes they need a little bang, bang in the head that they may ask themselves, "hey what is happening?"

     Actually, I am saying these through my own personal experience. It really hurts when people slap you left and right with the truth of the matter. But it was when I hurt the most that I learned the most. That is why I am not so much afraid to correct someone, as long as I know it would benefit them more if they just but listen to their voice within and without.   

     As to the people whom I actually bang, bang with the truth I offered them to God already. And then I let go.

     

Monday, March 8, 2010

When Others Behave The Way They Do

You're day went out quite right as how you intended it to be. The people you were always around with were the same funny and entertaining ones as they always were. And if some of their moods were sometimes irritating, you never mind because you knew that was a characteristic of them, what made them unique. You were about to call it a day. When suddenly in an office not yours someone came carrying herself proudly looking at you as if you were from outer space. From the way she gazed, you sense the sense of insecurity she was carrying deep inside, and reflected it outside by acting as if she were superior to you. You tried to make friendly movements which she ignored. This affected you. You felt a tinge of irritation creeping down within. So you immediately  finished your business in that office and went out. Then outside you saw her husband waiting for her, complaining and grunting loudly, calling for her, for she was inside too long; an attitude you would not want your husband to treat you with. You slowly got it and you said, that's why.

Did this happen to you? It did to me, yesterday. I inquired things about that lady. I was informed she just came from the U.S. Oh, would that make any difference? Would her actions be favorable for her? Would it matter whether she was above or below us? I was just so glad I was in this self-development business; for I knew where she stood and where I stood. And from the way her husband treated her, it was no wonder she had a bit of insecurity.

Anyway, people's actions no longer matter to me that much now. For if people behave the way they do, it is not because of who I am, it is because of who they are; how they see themselves and what their experiences are. It has been my prayer that God would make me loving to his children good and not so good alike. But since I am new to this undertaking, I have not yet matured fully. But at least I am able now to identify the sin from the sinner though my initial reaction would be somewhat judgmental. At least I have grown a little. This is a very big thing to me now.      

Saturday, August 29, 2009

     "Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and acceptance of love back into our hearts. Love is the existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others is the meaning of life."

     Abuse of anyone is simply a lack of love in ourselves and others. While allowing anyone to continually abuse us is simply a lack of self love alone. For if anyone loves her or his self, why would she or he allow such abuse? This is the ideal; yet we naturally fall out of this thin line. Until what is wrong would simply appear as "normal" because we just simply get used to it. Until love is no more than a wishful thinking.
    
     We are able to fill our lives with love because that is what we were born with.We can, and we simply must.

     Keep on Loving!
     Zel
    

Thursday, August 20, 2009

The Paradox Of Our Time by George Carlin

     Today I am sharing the thoughts from a person who has lived a life and left meaningful words that would make us, the living, contemplate upon for the sake of preserving our values. I agree with George Carlin. Hope you would too.
     "The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
     "We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
     "We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
     "We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
     "We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learn to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
     "These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or just hit delete...
     "Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
     "Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
     "Remember, to give a warm hug to the next one to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
     "Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
     "Remember, to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again..
     "Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

"AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
      Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."
    

You may also love to read:

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...