Saturday, April 2, 2011

Letting Happiness Flow Through Letting Go

     There are two forms of letting go. One is letting go of something that I do not want or no longer need, like letting go of heartaches and pains from the past. I have to let go of these things in order to move forward in my journey of life with no additional baggage and become a little wiser and happier.

      The other form of letting go is the letting go of something that I do so need and desire. This may sound scary but the truth behind this action is absolutely rewarding. For example, when I have the desire to acquire the newest laptop model. In order to maintain my happiness, I have to let go of the attachment to the desire, yet continue to do the means which could lead me to the acquisition of the newest laptop model. Because when I allow the attachment to the desire to linger within me much longer, it would drain me of my energy and could lead to unhappiness and loss of life balance. The desire is good, the attachment is not. And the best ever way to manage the desire is to let it go and offer it in the hands of God. This way I still can enjoy the flow of happiness in my life. The desire is just a spice of life while the happiness is the main ingredient.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Four Things To Do When A Member Of The Family Makes You Unhappy

    All of us desire for happiness. No one loves unhappiness. That's why many happiness substitutes ar coming out of the market because there is no definite way to get out of unhappiness.

     One situation of unhappiness is when someone makes us unhappy. What to do when faced with this dilemma? Pack our things and walk away hoping not to see the person who makes us unhappy ever again? Nope. We can't just do that, especially when the one's making us unhappy is a member of our own family. Whether we like it or not a family is a family. To face this situation, the following might help:

1. Determine who is in charge of your feelings. You are not a puppet who lift your hands when somebody lifts the strings or put down your hand when somebody pulls down the strings. Be in charge of your own feelings.

2. Determine what this person has done to you. If it's only petty things, forgive the person right away. There is no other way to overcome hard feelings than forgiveness. If the reason is bigger and is a matter of life and death, then talk it out calmly with the person involved. Settle the conflict in a gentle and loving way.

3. Determine what makes this person behave the way he/she does. Most people operate their lives out of their wounded hearts that have never been healed. Perhaps you are the instrument in the healing of some of the wounds this person is harboring deep within.

4. Understand the person. Extend a compassionate heart. He/She is your family anyway.

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