Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Sixteenth Lesson

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Lesson Number Sixteen: Life is too short for long pity parties.  Get busy living, or get busy dying.

Parties are okay. It is one way of relaxing our tired minds and bodies as well as meeting friends. However, too much of it is no longer good for our well-being. Our life balance would be at stake and is at risk of crumbling much later.

We are the holder of our life. Whichever way we may choose to trod, or whatever it is we want to do with it is up to us. We just have to choose wisely if we are to enjoy much our life. Once a wise person said, 'life is too short, use it wisely'. Whoever he is, he is very much right. Life would be much happier if in every decision we make, we first pause and ask, 'Am I doing the right thing? Is this the wisest decision I ever made? Would my life improve or become better if I do this?' By doing this, we are busy living our lives and busy preparing for our deaths. When we have a well-lived life, death is no longer a problem to us. Why would we be afraid of dying when we are already fulfilled living? What is out there to live for more? 

One thing about death--we are not really afraid to die. We are just afraid of letting go. It is the attachment to things we still want to do that prevents us from dying. Thus if we are to have a happy death, let us do each of our missions in life. Living life to the fullest is at the top of it.

So don't waste your time in pity parties. Go on. Get busy living your beautiful life.

Get happy!

     

Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Fifteenth Lesson

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Lesson Number Fifteen: Everything can change in the blink of an eye.  But don't worry; God never blinks.

It came as a shock to the television viewers, as well as to the family, and to the fans of AJ Perez when his sudden death was announced in the breaking news. I was one of them. I was one of the followers of his just ended telenovela 'Sabel'. Nobody ever expected him to die so young. Nobody wanted it. I knew because I too couldn't accept it. I had difficulty accepting the truth. His life just snapped with a blink of an eye. It was just a result of the driver's wrong decision. But 'puff', he was gone forever. And everything changed in his family, in his fans and followers, in the network where he worked, and in the world. All because there is no more AJ Perez to threw his innocent and sweet smile to us. Just with a blink of an eye....Just a blink of an eye.

But, yes, God never blinks. Whatever we have, wherever we are, God is watching us. Whatever happens He is always there. Everything happens for a reason. We may ask why. We may say it's unfair. But who are we to question God's plans? He never blinks. He knows what He is doing. Therefore, we just have to offer everything to Him. We may have some fears of letting go, but that is a part of life. It just pushes us to lean on to God the more and trust in His wisdom. All we have to do is let go and let God.

Get happy!

   

Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Fourteenth Lesson

Lesson Number Fourteen: If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

Regina says it clearly. 'If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it'. What is the purpose of every relationship? Why are you in a relationship? Simple. Just to be with somebody who loves you and accepts you as you are; who is not ashamed to be with you and is proud to tell the world that he/she loves you. If a relationship has to be a secret, something is not quite right in it. If your purpose in mind is to get serious with that relationship, yet it is not going the way it should be, it's time to pack your things up and leave. No relationship that starts not right will end right. Take that from those who had been there -- me.

Yup, I had been once in that situation. Naive as I was, I believed it was okay to keep it a secret at first because it would be brought up in the open once the situation would be ironed out so well. I was told so. But no. It didn't. Simply because the other party did not think my thoughts and did not believe my beliefs. It was I who was made to believe his words and made to think his thoughts. It was too late when I realized I was just wasting time, effort, emotions, and sadly, my dignity. I was just grateful it was not as late as not being able to get out of it. 

In a relationship, this would be my best advice -- do not let the other person belittle you and degrade you by yielding to him/her of keeping your relationship secret. Be aware that something is not quite right in that situation. Do not be super naive as I had been. Love yourself more than anybody else. Because if you won't, the other person would not do it for you. You always have the choice of making your life better by being in a right kind of relationship. Be aware....always!

Get happy!   

Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Thirteenth Lesson

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Lesson Number Thirteen: Don't compare your life to others'.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.


'Why do other people look much happier than I am?' These are the words we sometimes utter unto ourselves. Not only to ourselves but also to others. Not only us but also other people tell us these. Sometimes they even say, 'Good to you, you're life is running smoothly unlike mine.' While hearing these words, we often thought our lives are much easier than theirs. But no, my friend. We are all the same in this grand arena of the universe. We are under the same sun, under the same moon, under the same stars. Our situations in life may differ, but we feel the same pain and feel the same happiness. No one can tell that the happiness of the rich is greater than the happiness of the poor. Or that the pains of the poor are greater than the pains of the rich. No. We are all the same? Why? Simply because, we are created by the same creator, the same GOD. We receive from Him the same peace, the same love, the same life. The difference we have from others is only our perception of the world, our perception of life. Thus, it is never fitting nor reasonable comparing ourselves with others. 


We also differ in our journey in life. Sometimes others are born with a golden spoon with them, like Prince Charles and Princess Kate. Others are born with debts on their backs, like the citizens of third world countries. Still it is not wiser comparing ourselves with others because we never know how they are doing in their journey. Above all, we all goes to the same end -- to DUST. 


Therefore, stop comparing yourself with others and start living and leading the GOOD life you have while you still can. 


Get happy!