Self-esteem and happiness are connected, right. You know when you open your eyes to everything that could improve you, the right things will come. Creating a blog about happiness is a learning tool for me to become happy. I used to believe it is just all about spirituality. But no, everything has to be balanced and incorporated. I am excited to really feel that I am on my way to genuine happiness, and I am happy to know that I could share it with all of my readers.
I never thought of self-esteem as a first step to happiness. But now it seems to make sense. I am that naive, am I? Anyway, I believe it is -- that self-esteem is the first step to happiness. Thanks to wikihow for posting this one. I know many of you could relate with me what poor self-esteem could do to a person; they are failure and delay of success.
So much for that, here are the following methods that wikihow shared in developing self-esteem:
1. Work on Improving Yourself
- dress nicely
- have good hygiene
- practice good posture
- workout regularly
- give back to others
I'm glad to say I'm doing all these things now. My workout is yoga and it's making me feel great. As to giving back to others the only way I could give back is through blog posts and sharing positive thoughts and ideas in social networking sites. This is the only way my time could afford at the moment. And I'm happy doing this.
2. Make Yourself Stand Out
- compliment other people
- sit in the front row
- speak up
- walk faster
There is no problem with me about giving compliments. I'm able to do it. Sitting in the front row makes me nervous all through out college days. And even after. This is how shy and fearful I am. But now I'm trying to overcome this shyness with being pleasant. Speaking up made me nervous too, even though I know fully well how right I am. I guess the childhood experience that is continually playing it's role on me is being always told to shut up even if I'm only telling the truth and is speaking my side. I was always told to shut up. So I have carried with me the fear of speaking up. I'm just glad I love to speak up spontaneously through writing. So this I do. But of course, I also have to learn to speak up in gatherings or wherever and whenever needed.
3. Remove Your Negative Self-Esteem
- start from within
- create daily affirmations
- start with small steps to gain confidence
- please yourself
- be your own person
- avoid negative people
- face your fears and learn from your failures
- stop the negative thoughts
- don't worry about being perfect
- learn to appreciate yourself
- reward yourself when you succeed
In short love yourself the right way. Negative self-esteem is borne out of how unaware people have hurt us when we were younger. Our minds have been injected with the false belief that we are unworthy. But the moment we wake up to the truth of how precious we are, wow, we are reborn. I know waking up is not easy, especially when negative past seems a nightmare. Yet every problem has a solution. This made me remember the question: How do you eat an elephant? The answer -- chop the elephant first then eat it piece by piece. This is how to solve a seemingly insurmountable problem. Removing negative self-esteem is one of them. Let's just follow wikihow's steps and couple it with lots of faith. It can be done. Is it?