Regina Brett's Fifty Life Lessons: The Twenty-Fifth Lesson

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Lesson Number Twenty-Five: No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

Why are you here in this planet?.....

The answers could be varied, but there is one that stands out -- to be happy.

What are the ways to becoming happy?

The answers could be varied too; depending on the mood, lifestyle, environment, experiences, status, age, influences and interests of the person. 

As for me, there is no sure way as to what makes us happy. Because some things can make me happy while to others it could not -- just like sitting in front of the monitor looking outside at the green leaves dancing gracefully with each drop of the rain. Oh, it is so beautiful. And it makes me happy by just watching at the dance of the leaves and the raindrops.

It is where I am happiest the most --when I am with nature. Of course, my family makes me happy; but realistically, sometimes they don't.  Because I just choose to. For I know I am in charge of my own happiness and not anybody else. Sometimes I just allow my family to make me unhappy.

We all want and strive to be happy. I know that. What is the purpose of all our undertakings under the sun if not to be happy in the end. Only that we attach our happiness to the things that we believe could make us happy. This is where the difference lies. This is the reason why misery still exists in our helpless world despite the fact that we all want to be happy.

Sometimes too, we allow circumstances to make us happy. We want these and that to make us happy. In short, we only wait for anything that comes and make us happy. Oh, come on. Let us all wake up to the very fact that we are in charge of our happiness. To be truly happy is not somebody else responsibility. It is ours. Let us allow other people to be busy making themselves happy, while we are also busy making ourselves happy. Let us take that yoke off our neighbor's shoulders. We must carry our own yoke of making ourselves happy because it is our responsibility. 

This is what we should always remember: No one is in charge of our happiness, except us! It is our responsibility. It is our mission. If we are wise enough to follow this lesson, in our small way, we are slowly making a big difference in this beautiful planet of ours. Don't wait. Start now!

Get happy!

Flow

     Sometimes we just have to flow with the rhythm of life. We may have our own schedules and plans to attain the highest and noblest goals we have ever imagined, yet sometimes we just have to give up with these ideals and flow with the beauty of life that comes naturally and spontaneously.
      I don't believe we were born incompletely. I believe we were born with all the good things that were already inherent within us; only that as we grew, we forgot all these things, having our attention focused much with what was being taught to us. Thus we forgot our own unique beauty. Then, when we were old enough to know that something was wrong with us, came these more awakened people teaching us what to do to be who we want to be. In part they were right. However, too much attention with their words led us to forget that we, too, have what they have. We just forgot how. Then, we came to believe their way is the only way, thus their words we must follow.
     But the beauty in everything comes with our own discovery, our own way of discovery. No matter how much we broadcast and describe the beauty that we see, no one would ever appreciate it more than we do, because only us can see beautiful things with our own eyes. Only us; we could not do it for others; others could not do it for us. Sure, we need mentors - but only to inspire us, not to enlighten us, for in truth they could not.
     While we flow with people who promised to help open our eyes discover our capacities and realize our potentialities, we must not forget first and foremost to flow with life and nature. It has more answers to our questions if we but listen to it. And let us never ever forget that we are part of this rhythm of life.